{"id":1621,"date":"2019-08-22T22:50:28","date_gmt":"2019-08-22T22:50:28","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/cmlnetwork.ca\/comment-vivre-apres-avoir-dit-au-revoir\/"},"modified":"2022-07-26T20:28:43","modified_gmt":"2022-07-26T20:28:43","slug":"comment-vivre-apres-avoir-dit-au-revoir","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/cmlnetwork.ca\/fr\/comment-vivre-apres-avoir-dit-au-revoir\/","title":{"rendered":"Comment vivre apr\u00e8s avoir dit au revoir ?"},"content":{"rendered":"\n
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Comment vivre apr\u00e8s avoir dit au revoir ?<\/h1>\n\n
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Ce sentiment est horrible et douloureux, et signale souvent le d\u00e9but d’une spirale de culpabilit\u00e9, de doute de soi et de peur – tout cela est tr\u00e8s commun et tr\u00e8s normal chez les survivants d’\u00e9v\u00e9nements traumatiques, qui incluent un diagnostic de sant\u00e9 mettant la vie en danger comme le cancer. En fait, il a m\u00eame un nom. La culpabilit\u00e9 du survivant, ou syndrome du survivant, fait r\u00e9f\u00e9rence \u00e0 la conviction que l’on n’est pas digne de survivre. Il d\u00e9crit \u00e9galement les troubles \u00e9motionnels li\u00e9s au soulagement et \u00e0 la satisfaction d’avoir surv\u00e9cu, mais aussi \u00e0 la culpabilit\u00e9 et \u00e0 la honte d’\u00e9prouver ces sentiments alors que d’autres n’ont pas surv\u00e9cu.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Alors comment se fait-il que mon ami et moi ayons \u00e9t\u00e9 ceux qui se tenaient \u00e0 l’ext\u00e9rieur du salon fun\u00e9raire ce jour-l\u00e0 avec un soleil d’\u00e9t\u00e9 glorieux r\u00e9chauffant nos visages, et pas Nancy ?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Vous pourriez appeler \u00e7a de la chance, ou du destin. Ou peut-\u00eatre croyez-vous qu’un pouvoir sup\u00e9rieur nous a gard\u00e9s sur cette terre. Pour d’autres, il peut s’agir d’une question de science pure – peut-\u00eatre sommes-nous plus jeunes, plus forts, avons-nous de bons g\u00e8nes, notre cancer est-il diff\u00e9rent, nos m\u00e9dicaments sont-ils plus r\u00e9cents, notre maladie \u00e9tait moins avanc\u00e9e, ou peut-\u00eatre tr\u00e8s avanc\u00e9e et n\u00e9cessitait-elle une intervention plus rapide… Ou peut-\u00eatre est-ce tout simplement le cas.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

La v\u00e9rit\u00e9 est que nous ne savons pas pourquoi certains meurent et d’autres pas. \u00c0 mon sens, ceux d’entre nous qui sont encore debout doivent changer la question, pour eux-m\u00eames, mais aussi pour ceux que nous avons perdus.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Au lieu de nous demander \u00ab\u00a0Pourquoi suis-je en vie et pas elle ?\u00a0\u00bb, prenons un moment pour reconna\u00eetre le miracle d’\u00eatre encore l\u00e0. Ressentez la chaleur du soleil d’\u00e9t\u00e9. R\u00e9confortez ceux qui ont perdu. Parlez pour ceux qui ne le peuvent pas. Nous pourrions peut-\u00eatre nous rendre compte que la vraie question n’est pas tant une question qu’une d\u00e9claration : \u00ab\u00a0Je suis ici aujourd’hui, alors que vais-je faire ?\u00a0\u00bb<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Vivre avec l’une des maladies les plus redout\u00e9es de ce si\u00e8cle est terrifiant. Dire au revoir \u00e0 ceux qu’il nous vole ? D\u00e9vastateur. Et survivre alors que d’autres ne le font pas ? Parfois le plus difficile \u00e0 accepter.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Mais nous avons surv\u00e9cu, au moins pour aujourd’hui. Alors, que vas-tu faire ?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\"\\\"<\/a> Nancy Carmella Whyte 1953 – 2019<\/p>\n<\/div><\/div>\n<\/div><\/section>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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